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How to Use a Dynamic Relationship

If you have the man of your dreams in your midst and you are about to become an exclusive couple you will want the relationship to last -will you not? But with so many marriages ending in divorce and the prevailing wind that marriage isn’t for life anyway, what can you do to make sure that your dream relationship of one month lasts and is still your dream relationship of 20 years?

The big picture is to think of building your relationship on solid ground- have this as your outcome and it will help to dictate and shape your future decisions.

As you have that picture for your relationship the next thing is to devise your own rules and boundaries.
Ask yourself and then your partner about boundaries. For instance, what is a deal breaker- i.e. what is it you both could do that is grounds for immediate divorce? Is that having an affair? Is it having a one night stand? What about gambling? Or partying? And a biggy- working away or working long hours?

Whatever that deal breaker is for you make sure you know it, communicate it to him and he has to do the same with you.

How do you want to be treated? Of course you are going to say with love and respect and other similar things, but what would that look like on a day to day basis? Work out what that is and communicate that to your partner making sure you get his as well.

How are you going to resolve your differences? Are you the type to manipulate to get your own way? Are you the type to pretend everything is fine but find things in the future to use against him? Whatever you pattern is here, talk about it now and make a pact to do something that won’t threaten the relationship?

What about mind games if you don’t feel loved? What I mean is, some women and men can resort to trying to make the other one jealous if they don’t feel they are being cared for enough. What happens with you? What would make you resort to such behaviour? Once you know this let your partner know that you really need and want to be shown love in whatever ways they are for you because otherwise you’ll feel insecure.

And lastly what about time, fun, togetherness and connection? How important do these feature in your marriage? And is this the same for your partner? You need to talk this out as over time most other things can be forgiven but having a marriage where you have no fun, there is no connection, you don’t spend time together is not a marriage and you know it will end in divorce.

So get your relationship off to a great start by building it on solid ground right from the start by taking you and your partner through this dynamic and relationship saving process, and you will have a marriage that lasts.

Secret to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

Do you want to know the #1 secret to create the relationship of your dreams?

There is a secret that no one shares. And I am going to tell you that secret right now…

You do not create the relationship of your dreams.

You got it backwards. You don’t go looking for the relationship. You start with you. How is your relationship with you?

Until you love yourself first and the best relationship in your whole life is the one you have with you right now you will not be able to find that partner with whom you can create happiness. Will not happen!

If you are not in love with you then why in the world would anyone else want to fall in love with you? If you are not happy spending time alone with you-without distractions like radio or television-how could you offer someone else joy in your presence?

If you really want to find the person with whom you can spend the rest of your life in happiness then write a list, a detailed list, of who that person is, how that person is, what that person likes and does. In other words, describe your dream mate-on paper. Do not use a computer. Write with your hand using a pencil or pen and paper.

Seriously, you gotta do this or you will never find that perfect relationship for you.

Okay. Now that you have your list, realize the only way to attract that person is for you to become exactly like that person (with the exception of gender).

You know that you attract who you are because The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Become the person you want to be with and that person will magically appear in your world-at precisely the best time for you.

What are you waiting for? Do it now or you never will.

Warning: Do not neglect the above exercise! Be sure to take this advice seriously if you want to create your dream relationship and live in happiness.

Three Steps to Your Dream Relationship

Do you want to settle down with one guy and just make commit to you? Why are guys so afraid of a monogamous and permanent relationship? Is there anything you can do to change the dynamic of your dating life and start a long-term relationship? Before you throw in the towel, try out these three steps with your guy and you will be able to make him commit.

1. Take away his fear.

Some guys are just afraid to establish any kind of permanency because of what they’ve experienced in their own lives while witnessing their parents’ marriage. You need to alleviate his fears and let him know how you are different, without directly telling him. You can let him know by your actions and by your offhand comments.

For example, he might think that you will gain a lot of weight after getting married and having children. You can counteract this fear by being committed to exercise and letting him see your ability to stay fit. Also, you can make a comment about how you want to stay active throughout your life and always stay in shape.

2. Let himexperience the rewards of a relationship with you.

By sending him love notes, keeping your abode clean and organized, and eating great meals; he will know that a life with you would be full of benefits. Even little errands that he has to do that you can handle for him will illustrate the convenience that comes with having a partner to go through life with. You can make him commit to you when you fully display the positives that are attached to being your boyfriend.

3. Make time apart.

Another way for him to fully comprehend how wonderful life with you would be is to give yourself time apart every now and then; it is true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Take any chance you can to go on a trip with friends, head home to visit family, or volunteer for a work assignment out of town.

Not only will you reap the benefits of a more fulfilled life, your guy will feel what his life is like when you’re not around. Hopefully, it won’t be as fun and exciting as his life with you. Be careful not to let him think anything is wrong or that you are unhappy with the relationship, but rather let him know that you just want to go and keep up with other friends and family in your life.

Relationship Advice For Women

Women can come as both experts and rookies in the relationship department. Men can also be very unpredictable and you have to bear that during the course of the relationship. Dealing with men in your relationship is bitter and sweet.

Below are some tips that can help a woman with her relationship. Read through and get to know the things that you need to consider:

He looks at other women.
You might be having dinner and you caught him looking at a woman who passed by your table. The first thing to do is to not pick a fight. Men look at women the same way women look at a beautiful flower or a lovely dress. Men are visual beings so expect that whenever a beautiful woman passes, his head will automatically tilt.

He needs his own time.
Being in relationship should not hinder your quality time alone or with family and friends. Remember that even if the two of you are together, it doesn’t mean that you are so fused together that you can’t go your separate ways anymore. He needs to do some things on his own. Provide him his personal space.

He doesn’t call.
Do not start to nag or call him every hour asking why he hasn’t called. There are just times that he doesn’t want to be bothered. Just like the time when you got mad at him because he’s ruining your shopping time. And remember that he has a job to attend to, right? Let him do his job without having to bother him by the hour.

He is quiet.
You know by now that men are not necessarily experts in communicating. So why wonder why he is not talking to you? Your partner is not your girl friend so stop expecting him to be like one. Sometimes he’s just quiet and there is nothing wrong, so stop asking him.

He solves his problems on his own.
When a man encounters a problem, he needs to solve it on his own. Sharing a problem is not his nature. When he has a problem he wants to silently retrieve to his cave and solve it. When he has solved it, then he would come out and proudly share his success.

He wants to be successful.
Being successful is important for any man because it brings prestige, status, and power. The more he is successful, the more he will feel his manhood.

He wants to be Superman.
Yes, he wants to do the manly things by himself, so allow him. A man needs to boost his ego by doing the things that they think only men can do.

Good Relationships

Does seeing happy couple together makes you wish that it is you and your partner? Have you been searching for that missing piece in your relationship with your partner? Are you wondering of what makes good relationships between couples?

Building good relationships that you can always cherish requires a deep understanding of what makes a lasting relationship with the people you care for especially your partner. The strong connection and attachment to your special someone will need a good foundation. When you are able to apply the important ingredients that are essential in your relationship then it will blossom to a connection that cannot be swayed by serious challenges.

The following are the secret ingredients among couples who have successful and good relationships.

1. Be your Partner’s Motivator: In good relationships, encouraging your partner to be better each day will strengthen the connection between the two of you. When you become your partner’s self-esteem booster, he gains the courage and strength to express his real self. If you are able to reach out to your partner’s heart then you will have an open relationship that will continue to aim for happiness and infinite love.

2. Be Loyal to your Partner: If you want to be one of the couples with good relationships, committing your love solely to your partner must be valued. Loyalty to your partner will pave way to a healthy and happy relationship. You should be strong enough and have faith in your partner’s love so that you will be able to fight temptations around you. When you have this emotion deep in your heart, the love you have for your partner will not wane no matter what the circumstances are.

3. Let your Partner Know What you Think and Feel: Another key ingredient in good relationships is helping your partner understand and be aware of your needs. You should not always assume that your partner knows what is going through your head and what your real feelings are. If you will have this kind of thinking, your partner will have difficulty in figuring out how to make your relationship work. Remember that relationship is not a guessing game; it is about reaching out to one another and letting each other know what your heart is truly longing for.

4. Always Allow Room for Improvement: For a relationship to grow, you should let each other know the aspects where you often encounter problem and have a tough time in overcoming it. Aside from enabling each other to be aware of the problems, there should be an acceptance of these mistakes and openness in improving your role as a partner. When you are willing to deal with your shortcomings, you are allowing improvement, which is an essential aspect in achieving good relationships.

To have a happy relationship, you should not give up easily when your partner lacks the attributes of a perfect partner. You should transform your partner into a perfect one by supporting him, allowing him to broaden his perspective, and letting him know how much you love him. There is no such thing as perfect partner; it is you who will motivate your partner to be perfect.

How To Create A Dream Relationship

No matter how old you are, it is never too late to create the relationship you’ve always wanted to have with your mother and father. In fact, you can do this today even if they are no longer living, so don’t stop yourself from enjoying the satisfaction of a healthy parent-child relationship just because one or both parents is no longer in your life.

Perhaps you have been estranged from your mother or father for many years, and they have rebuffed all attempts to resolve the situation. You can still benefit from following the suggestions outlined in this article.

Remember that the release from stress and tension that you will receive by healing a sad or unhealthy relationship with your parents is one that you’ll enjoy the rest of your life. In addition, learning how to have a healthier relationship with your own parents will help you to be a better parent to your own kids and better friend to other family members.

It’s strange how often we feel tied to behaving the same old way in our relationships, as if the rules are written in stone and we are stuck with them forever more. If you don’t have a loving relationship with your mom or dad (or both), or if you’d like it to be a closer one, go ahead and change the rules! You can do this even if your parents are no longer available to you for one reason or another.

A simple way to begin is by saying: “I love you, Mom…. I love you, Dad.” If your parents are alive, call or visit them today and repeat those words in a heartfelt way. They are incredibly liberating.

If you have lost one or both of your parents and find yourself full of regret over lost opportunities to be closer to each other, you can find special ways now to create a relationship that is loving and warm.

You might wish to light a candle and put on soft music, then quietly talk to your parents as if they are in the room with you. Ask for their support and guidance with a particular problem you have been struggling with. Sit in silence for a moment as you let the answers come to you. Talk to them about what is going on in your life, and tell them you are sorry for the things you did to hurt them in the past.

You may find it comforting to wear jewelry that belonged to one of your parents, such as a watch, or wear a certain color of clothing that was their favorite. Display knickknacks and memorabilia in your home that remind you of your parents and special occasions spent with them. If you have some of your mother’s old recipes, try fixing one of them and thank her for the efforts she made to be a good mom. Read books and listen to music that they enjoyed.

Whether your parents are alive or gone, thank them for all the lessons they taught you, even if you didn’t recognize their value at the time. Forgive them for the mistakes they made, and understand that they did the best they knew how at that time, no doubt driven by their own uncertainties, worries and confusion about being a parent.

When you take the time to be grateful for the parents you were blessed with, you will discover more and more ways to honor them. And in this process, you will discover that it is indeed possible to create the loving relationship with your parents that you always dreamed of having.