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Successful Relationships

This article will focus on the importance of balancing your inner being towards personal transformation regarding relationships. In other words, it is vitally important to be in tune with your inner essence in order to create and maintain a nurturing interaction with yourself and with your partner, child, spouse, or whomever.

First, start off by asking yourself if you know what you want in a relationship? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Remember, the Universal Laws concerning the Law of Attraction means that to live life without purpose means you live life by default. And, relationships are no different. Please understand that nobody is in charge of making you happy. This means that true inner peace cannot be found outside of yourself. Only your own Divinity and your own Inner Guidance System have the ability to bring you the love relationships of your dreams.

So before you go forth on this journey of finding and receiving the blissfulness of a true love relationship with another human being, you must adhere to the fact that you must love yourself first. This is not just some flippant comment that you have heard before that should be skimmed over. This is serious business and is what the Law of Attraction is all about.

And, if you do not know what you expect or want for yourself in a relationship then you will get whatever your subconscious emotions are projecting. Furthermore, if you do not know what your subconscious emotions are projecting then you are living life in an unawakened state of being. Relationships are a vital part of living on the earth plane. And relationships are not just about a significant other situation. You have a relationship with your co-workers, your neighbors, your career (what you want from a career is also a pertinent question for you to ponder), your family, your friends, your pets, and all manner of living things. But for the purposes of this particular article we are going to focus on significant other relationships.

The first thing to do is to spend some quiet time in reflection about how you would like to feel when you are in a relationship. What do you want to have happen for you when you find that special someone? Not just in the beginning stage, the honeymoon stage, but for all the years that you are together. Because, since you cannot be in charge of another person’s feelings, this is really all about you. Not in a selfish way, but in a deliberate-creation way. By deliberate-creation I mean that you should understand from your inner essence what you envision for yourself. What will happen for you in this relationship? How will this help you to become a better person?

Here are some examples that might aid you with the relationship issue process. Do you want to feel appreciated? Do you want to feel respected? Do you want to be accepted for who you are and not have to live up to the expectations of the other person? Hopefully these few examples will trigger your own thought processes so you can tune into your beingness and create from that center point. Also, doing these steps will enhance your awareness about your inner desires concerning a relationship. And then you can proceed by being in an awakened state and create deliberately.

It is imperative for you to be able to connect with your inner essence. It is this author’s belief that meditation is a key element for connecting with and living by your inner guidance system. You can certainly start your mental list about how you would like to feel in your relationship. However, to accelerate the process of making your dream relationship into a reality a connection with your own spiritual advisor is essential; the spiritual advisor that dwells within you. So, having established the importance of connecting with your Divinity, let us proceed with some guidelines that can help you further along the process.

When you are in a relaxed and meditative state, imagine yourself being in the relationship of your inner most desires. Really feel the relationship being exactly the way you want it to be. While it is perfectly acceptable to picture physical attributes, the most important aspect of this process is for you to connect with how you want to feel in the relationship. And to remember what it is YOU want for yourself when you are in a relationship. Remember, acknowledging what you want in the relationship honors your inner self while also projecting the correct energy flow in order to attract your energetic match.

Visualize yourself being in the absolute epitome of the perfect relationship from your point of view. Continue to do this process on a regular basis. Remember, doing it once or twice is probably not going to produce the desired results. The reason this is so is because, at some level of your inner being, there are probably blocks or belief systems that have prevented your ideal relationship from coming to you up until this point.

Imagination is a powerful modality when creating Law of Attraction lifestyles. Because, when you let your imagination guide you then you can connect with your inner spiritual consultant. We each have an inner spiritual life coach that is just waiting to reveal the essence of your inner most desires for achieving enlightenment in any given area of your life.

So, allow yourself to dream into existence that perfect relationship. You are entitled to the best of everything, including a soul mate. Sending you the best of thoughts for success in your emotional healing regarding your relationship issues.

Relationship Satisfaction with the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction tells us that we can manifest anything we desire. As a spiritually oriented life coach of more than twelve years, I agree whole-heartedly. That is, IF you truly understand the advanced concepts that elevate the Law of Attraction from the realm of “interesting idea” to “practical success tool.”

It is vital not only to understand what does and doesn’t work regarding the Law of Attraction in general, but also the do’s and don’ts specific to each type of dream you wish to manifest; whether it be the desire for a fulfilling relationship, prosperity, physical well-being, inner peace, or right livelihood. When it comes to relationships there are common pitfalls which can easily sabotage an eager seeker. In this article we’ll address culprit #1.

FORM VS. ESSENCE

A common Law of Attraction pitfall regarding relationships is that people focus on the form vs. the essence. Form refers to appearances – what we think our dream relationship is supposed to look like. Essence refers to the vibration – what our dream relationship will feel like. The form can be a trap because we think the form is what will make us happy. But if the form doesn’t match the essence two things can happen: a) you may attract exactly what you’re looking for (i.e. your dream will “look” as you expected), but still find yourself unhappy, or b) you may find yourself unable to manifest what you desire because, due to your expectation, you’ll keep missing it.

Money in relationships is a common form vs. essence pitfall area. When I guide people through my Vision Workshop process to get clear on the relationship of their dreams, they will usually hit a point where they are exploring finances. They will make very specific lists about their dream mate’s job, income, financial status, and assets. They get caught up in appearances (the conditions of our third dimensional reality).

ESSENCE = VIBRATION

Now there is nothing wrong with this per se. It is great to have an image of what you want. Many people can be very visual. I love and recommend collages as a manifestation tool because they engage the senses and help you to access the vibrational essence of your desire. However, the problem arises when you are not clear about what those physical conditions represent to you. You need to identify the underlying essence. What does that image or form mean to you?

For example, maybe you want a woman who will contribute to your household financially. Or you want a man who is already wealthy. You need to ask yourself, “Why? Why is this important to me? What does this money or work ethic mean to me?” If you don’t get to the essence of what you want, you may attract the perfect “picture” but find out that it doesn’t match some other unconscious desire.

Perhaps what you really seek in a woman who is willing to contribute financially is the essence of partnership. Maybe you’ve witnessed examples of strong women who are out there in the world and bring back a certain fiery strength and independence that appeals to you. If you’re not clear that that is what you really desire, you could conceivably attract a woman who likes to work, but not necessarily as a joyful expression of who she is. You could get the form of a woman who wants to work full-time, but she could have an entirely different essence, maybe even one that is counter to what you desire. What if she works because she feels she can’t depend on anyone to take care of her, and that means you?

What of the woman who thinks she wants a man who is worth millions? If she doesn’t identify the essence of what that means to her, she may end up unhappy. For her wealth may mean freedom, power, safety or protection. Again, she may very well attract the form of wealth, but the essence of being cared for may elude her.

LOOK BENEATH THE SURFACE

As you identify what you want in a relationship, have fun making your lists and summoning the visual imagery of your desires. But don’t stop there. Go deeper and look beneath the surface. Ask yourself what it is that you really want in a relationship. As you clearly connect with your value system and the qualities you seek, you’ll be able to direct that energy into the Universe with power and clarity.

Relationship Reality

Within the next two to three minutes, you will uncover if you have had relationships based in reality or fantasy!

I want you to recall a failed relationship and ask yourself one question, “Why didn’t it work?”

Initially, you may answer, “They cheated, lied, changed, etc.” But be honest with yourself. Without honesty there cannot be any changes in your life.

The truth may be you created a world in which this person could not live up too! “How is that possible,” is what you are thinking, “I would never do such a thing!” Maybe not intentionally but you do it! Heck, we all do it until we realize we are doing it!

Too often you project your image of the person onto them. Thus, creating your fantasy person. We see only the image we created.

This is important to recognize early on because at no point did the person ask you to think so highly of them. You focus on their “potential” and figure eventually he/she will get to that place he/she should be to make you happy.

However, once the individual steps outside of the image you created you begin to think, “They changed!” But in reality they were the same all a long.

In essence, what you have done was create a “virtual reality” or “fantasy world” based on the images present in your mind. That is why many of us get hurt in our relationships. We are not realistic but idealistic.

What’s the difference between a Realistic person and an Idealistic person?

Realistic: 

  • A realistic person will go into a relationship with their eyes open
  • A realistic person will lay the cards on the table and get down to details of what the relationship is going to be
  • A realistic person will speak their mind and say what they feel even though it may hurt the person in the short term
  • A realistic person is honest with the individual regarding their life and shows they care about the person and not focused on what they can get from the individual
  • A realistic person understands there will be problems and issues but working together they can overcome anything
  • A realistic person tends to be more genuine in their love and support
  • And much, much more

Idealistic:

  • The idealistic person will forgo the communication and move straight into sex
  • The idealistic person will say “I love you” quick
  • The idealistic person will get emotionally attached quick
  • The idealistic person will think, “This is my dream person.” Technically, they would be right, as it is a dream they are living and their new mate would be a dream person.
  • The idealistic person will cry because their dream relationship did not work out then repeat the process over again
  • The idealistic person will blame everyone else for causing the problem but never look at themselves
  • The idealistic person lives in a fantasy world where everything works and nothing fails
  • The idealistic person is usually kicked square in the face by reality and still will not wake up
  • And much, much more!

The question you need to ask yourself is, “Am I a realistic person or am I am idealistic person?” The answer to that question will help you to understand why your relationships end and how to say goodbye to relationship mistakes and avoid unhappy relationships.

Now, don’t go analyzing people and prejudging them. This, as well as everything else you may read on other web sites, is just a guide. Use your common sense and just pay attention when you are dealing with people.